'No one had anything to eat for most of the [wedding] reception': Blundering baker's stunt leaves wedding guests stunned and hungry

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    Plant - 'She called me and asked why I couldn't invite her. told her that... we're not friends' JUD
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    Font - r/AmItheA u/NoVermicelli1915 AITA for not inviting a friend to my wedding due to her behaviour at the last wedding she went to? Posted by
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    Font - I (25f) have a friend called Morgan (27f). Morgan and I have been drifting apart in recent years due to our differing opinions of how she handled a situation at our other friend's (25f-Lucy) wedding in 2019.
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    Font - Lucy had asked Morgan to make some deserts and sweet treats for the reception and she agreed. This was the only food that was going to be at the reception other than cocktail sandwiches. They agreed on the price (for the sake of simplicity, let's say £500 for all the baked goods- this isn't what they actually offered, it was much more) because when they organised this, Lucy and her partner were solely paying for the wedding. About 7 months before the wedding, Lucy's parents offered to pay
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    Font - Lucy was obviously having a breakdown and her partner/the families of the married couple/all our friend group were trying to convince her to bring the food back in but she refused. Luckily, some people went and ordered a ton of pizzas, burgers, milkshakes, etc and the wedding was saved but it caused so much unnecessary stress.
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    Font - I have sort of stopped talking to Morgan but she is vaguely in the friend group because she's loosely related to Lucy and she's been trying to 'get over it' because they see each other at family gatherings.
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    Font - Anyway, I announced my engagement December and we're getting married in August 2023. Everyone but Morgan is invited. I'm not trying to be a bi, but she has shown herself to be very vindictive and calculated in her malicious actions since this wedding debacle and the last thing I want is her kicking off. We have a seperate group chat that Morgan is not in, but she knows I'm getting married and is upset that she's not invited.
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    Font - She called me and asked why I couldn't invite her. I told her that 1) we're not friends- even before Lucy's wedding, we were more acquaintances and 2) her behaviour at and after Lucy's wedding has made me doubt her maturity and I want my day to be special. I know I can't prevent EVERYTHING from happening at my wedding but if I can remove one factor (someone who is known for being argumentaive and vindictive) for my own anxiety, then fine.
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    Font - Now she's trying to convince Lucy to convince me to let her come. Morgan is super upset at me and my fiance. AITA?
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    Font - NerdyTheWarlock pant [3] Parta ΝΤΑ Though I do think you shouldve kept lucy out of it. You shouldve just left it as "I never thought of us as friends" and left it to that Now, you brought Lucy into more drama that she didn't need when she seemingly is trying to patch it up? They still hang in family gatherings and Lucy didnt push her out of the friendgroup when no one else likes her. So that kinda makes you s not for not inviting her. But But you should apologize to lucy for extending her
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    Font - NoVermicelli1915 OP Though I do think you shouldve kept lucy out of it. I guess I'm confused... Lucy is a close friend and she's invited. Morgan reached out to me and when I said she wasn't invited, she took it upon herself to ask Lucy to ask me. I haven't been keeping Morgan in the loop at all. We have a whole separate group chat (with no Morgan) where wedding stuff stays.
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    Font - NerdyTheWarlock Parta ant [3] I mean by the "I told her - That her behavior at and after lucys wedding" Thats why I'm saying you brought lucy into it. Couldve just left it "We're not friends and this is a friends/family event" But if she was bugging Lucy before hand forget what I said.
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    Font - Calm_Inky Enthusiast [5] NTA - Though a bit baffled that Lucy is still speaking with Morgan! That's a h of a friend! A
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    Font - NoVermicelli1915 OP They're related somehow (I think Morgan's dad is married to one of Lucy's aunts but said aunt isn't Morgan's mum). It's confusing but they see each other at family gatherings so I think she's just trying to keep the peace.
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    Font - Calm_Inky A: Enthusiast [5] Still wow! That makes what she did to Lucy even worse... absolutely awful to do that to a friend, but "extended family"... Whoa!!! PS: I hope you have the most amazing wedding! Congratulations!!!
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    Font - Zealand RedSquirrel NTA. Increasing your price with ample notice is an as Imove. Doing it on the day of the wedding means I can no longer respect you or be associated with you. I would not have allowed Morgan to remain a part of my friend group unless she took full accountability for the insane stunt she pulled.
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    Rectangle - BarracudaGullible Aficionado [19] Increasing your price TO FOUR TIMES THE AGREED UPON PRICE on the DAY OF THE WEDDING means you should probably be fired into the sun with a cannon. "Insane stunt" is actually a nice way of putting it. The audacity! Shunning is definitely warranted here. A
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    Rectangle - Calm_Inky A Enthusiast [5] Still wow! That makes what she did to Lucy even worse... absolutely awful to do that to a friend, but "extended family"... Whoa!!! PS: I hope you have the most amazing wedding! Congratulations!!!

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